|Posted by kelly on April 9, 2014 at 8:20 PM||comments (2)|
I imagine musicians and dancers feel in the flow when they are performing and artists feel it when they are painting. Many other professionals I am sure experience flow when they are working with others creatively and have that sense of total immersion and enjoyment.
Nakamura and Csíkszentmihályi identify the following six factors as encompassing an experience of flow:
1. intense and focused concentration on the present moment
2. merging of action and awareness
3. a loss of reflective self-consciousness
4. a sense of personal control or agency over the situation or activity
5. a distortion of temporal experience, one's subjective experience of time is altered
6. experience of the activity as intrinsically rewarding, also referred to as autotelic experience
Bringing that sense of flow into our lives more regularly can be a challenge, but the rewards are well worth it. You don't have to be a master at your skill or profession to feel flow, but it does have to feel challenging.
How have you experienced flow in your life, and how can you can bring it into your life more often?
|Posted by kelly on June 19, 2013 at 9:30 AM||comments (0)|
What's one small thing you can do today to eliminate excess in your life?
|Posted by kelly on February 2, 2013 at 9:50 AM||comments (0)|
I have always been active since I was a little girl. I loved playing soccer with the boys in Brazil. I almost lost an eye when I was six when one of them tripped me, and I fell and hit the edge of a bench. I went to the hospital, got my stitches, said thank you in Portuguese (Obrigado) to the doctor and went right back to playing soccer. Another time, my mom took her eyes off of me for a second, and I was up on the high board at the swimming pool. I was five. I was pretty fearless like most kids that age. Early on, I realized I was blessed with athleticism. When we moved to Toledo, Ohio, I took up tennis, golf, bowling, basketball, softball and track. My mom had to see me in a tutu though, so she put me in tap dance classes. I would finish class, change in the car and be rushed over for my softball games. Tennis ended up being what I excelled in, and I spent many summers playing for 3-5 hours a day. It was my passion for a very long time.
I ended up playing college tennis and afterwards got my certifications to teach and work at clubs and the United States Tennis Association. After my brother died in 1995, I decided to give tennis, as a profession, a rest. I still play a little, but a chronic achilles tendon injury has kept me from playing competitively anymore. In 1997, I decided to get into the healing field of massage therapy. I did it to partially heal myself, but also felt drawn to healing others. Fifteen years later I am still practicing massage, but I have come back to the teaching/coaching field where I have always felt I can make the most difference in people's lives.
It breaks my heart to see all these young children becoming obese and sick and more people in general dying of all kinds of diseases and cancers. So much of these diseases can be stopped by eating healthier, being more active and managing stress levels. Education is the key, and as a wellness coach, I help people become more aware of the choices they make and help them develop long lasting healthy changes that work for them. It's not just about eating better and exercising though. It's about implementing a lifestyle that fosters well-being mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically. All areas need nurturing or there will always be an imbalance. I have a lot to learn, but I feel like I walk the walk most of the time. I am human and slip off course sometimes. The key is to keep your eye on the ball as much as possible. The ball being health and vitality for a lifetime.
|Posted by kelly on September 19, 2012 at 3:20 PM||comments (0)|
|Posted by kelly on August 15, 2012 at 8:05 AM||comments (0)|
All the energies that make up physical human life are fundamentally organized and vibrate according to what we give our attention to and how we feel about what we give our attention to. We all have had destructive thoughts, feelings and emotions. We all have our "stories". If we give attention or awareness to our story long enough, toxic emotions can accumulate in the body and poison it. If we keep reliving our negative experiences, it will make us sick. It is so important to release these emotions by acknowledging them, but then letting them go. My brother once gave me a little wall plate that most of us have seen the saying before, that reads, "Put on your big girl panties and get over it!"
What we are giving our attention to, or our awareness, is the most life-altering form of energy available to us. It is our awareness that has the greatest influence on the body, our perceptions and emotions. Eastern Science says that emotions are attracted to the body's nervous system according to what the person is giving their attention to. Thus the emotional body actually reacts to the consciousness body. Your anger is the emotional body's response to your thoughts; your thoughts do not take their cues from your emotions.
Louise Hay's book, You Can Heal Your Life is all about the mind-body connection. I highly recommend it if you haven't read it. When it comes to the physical body, the Eastern sciences of self-healing say that more than 95% of all illness and weakness within the body have an emotional origin. The sequence is: thoughts attract emotions that, if unresolved, may cause physical problems. Unresolved emotions build up and become increasingly exacerbated by what we habitually give our attention to. Thoughts fuel the emotional fire.
Awareness can be the gateway to health or illness based on what we are giving our attention to. Since imbalance and disease enter through the doorway of awareness they can also be shown the way out through the same doorway. When we give our attention to things that live in an unlimited, high vibrational realm such as gratitude, acceptance, love and forgiveness, we can heal, overcome and breakthrough life's challenges.
Coaching Inquiry: What toxic thoughts and emotions can you let go of today, and what constructive thoughts can you replace them with?
|Posted by kelly on July 15, 2012 at 8:20 PM||comments (0)|
I can work with you to help tame your gremlin.
|Posted by kelly on May 13, 2012 at 8:25 AM||comments (0)|
|Posted by kelly on March 15, 2012 at 8:25 AM||comments (0)|
How often do you allow the circumstances of each day, or even the mood that you are in affect your feelings and thinking about the rest of the day? I’m sure that this occurs way too often. You have probably let the weather, some comment made or even the way someone looks at you affect your mood and your perspective of the day.
You are surrendering your power when you do this. Take your power back. Take back your power of choice – use your initiative and focus your mind – MAKE IT A GREAT DAY.
Can you determine how circumstances affect you? If you’re like the overwhelming majority of people, you simply let them affect you. You’ve gotten into the habit of passively allowing your feelings and attitudes to be shaped by whatever random event happens.
In order to get out of that powerless, weak reaction that has become an ingrained habit grooved into your subconscious, you have to make a decision about what you want out of each day. You will have to literally plan to MAKE IT A GREAT DAY.
Watch Out For Those Little, Annoying Circumstances
Be careful to not allow these seemingly insignificant circumstances erode your path toward making it a great day.
Drag your thoughts away from your troubles…
by the ears, by the heels
or any other way you can manage it
Make a decision about how you’re going to MAKE IT A GREAT DAY. Take a proactive stance by purposeful and decisive behavior and not just sit back passively and hope you’ll respond to situations in a positive manner. Here are some suggestions:
Smile as often as possible
Be enthusiastic when you greet people
Shake that hand like you mean it
Find someone to appreciate (and then let them know)
Get your chin up and shoulders back
At day’s end, congratulate yourself for particular ways you made it a great day
Relentlessly practice an ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE
"The Constitution only gives people the right to pursue happiness.
You have to catch it yourself."
How are you going to catch happiness today?
|Posted by kelly on February 10, 2012 at 7:30 AM||comments (0)|
|Posted by kelly on February 8, 2012 at 6:15 PM||comments (0)|
I found that fifteen minutes into the ride, I was totally in the moment. Martha's commanding, yet calming and encouraging words took me to a place I haven't been in awhile. I felt strong, focused, joyful and connected to spirit. I was almost brought to tears half way through the hour long ride.
This was a class that was not only a physical training but a life training. I went up to her after class and introduced myself as a fellow instructor and told her what a wonderful experience that was and asked her how she got into spinning. We had a fifteen minute conversation about how spinning was her way of releasing stress from things that were going on in her life. Riding was a moving meditation for her. That was definitely what it was for me today. Martha has mastered her craft by being able to get us to visualize being in the moment and connecting to our higher self and the greatness we all have inside of us.